Updated: Jul 24
Becoming a surrogate mother is a generous and rewarding decision, but also a significant commitment that requires careful consideration. If you're considering becoming a surrogate mother and want to learn more about the requirements, compensation, and other aspects of the surrogacy process, be sure to check out our blog article. If you're thinking about becoming a surrogate, here are some steps you can take to get started:
Educate yourself about surrogacy: Surrogacy is a complex legal, emotional, and medical process. Understanding what surrogacy involves and what it means for you and the intended parents is essential. Traditional surrogacy involves artificially inseminating the surrogate with the intended father's sperm or using donor sperm. The surrogate then carries the pregnancy and gives birth to the baby genetically related to her. In gestational surrogacy, the surrogate carries an embryo created using in vitro fertilization (IVF).
The seed is created using the intended parents' or donors' eggs and sperm, or a combination of both, and is then transferred to the surrogate's uterus for pregnancy. In this case, the surrogate is not genetically related to the baby and serves as a gestational carrier. It's important to note that gestational surrogacy is more common than traditional surrogacy, as it allows the intended parents to have a genetic connection to their child. Both types of surrogacy have unique challenges and considerations, and it's essential to understand the differences before deciding which type is right for you.
Determine your eligibility: Surrogacy agencies and intended parents have specific criteria for surrogates, including age, health, and lifestyle requirements. Generally, surrogates should be at least 21 years old, physically and emotionally healthy, and have given birth to at least one child.
Find a surrogacy agency or intended parents: There are several ways to find intended parents or a surrogacy agency, including online directories, support groups, and word of mouth. It's essential to do your research and choose a reputable agency or intended parents who will support you throughout the surrogacy process.
Get medical and legal evaluations: Before becoming a surrogate, you will need to undergo a medical assessment to ensure that you are physically healthy and capable of carrying a pregnancy. You will also need to meet with a lawyer to discuss surrogacy's legal aspects and draft a surrogacy agreement outlining the rights and responsibilities of all parties involved.
Begin the matching process: Once you have completed the necessary evaluations, you will be matched with the intended parents. This process can involve getting to know the intended parents through phone calls, emails, and in-person meetings.
Undergo fertility treatments: If you carry an embryo created using the intended parents' or donors' eggs and sperm (gestational surrogacy), you must undergo fertility treatments to prepare your uterus for pregnancy. This may include taking medications to stimulate egg production and prepare the uterus for implantation.
Carry and deliver the baby: During the pregnancy, you will work with your medical team and the intended parents to ensure the health of the baby and yourself. You will sign over custody to the intended parents when the baby is born, as agreed upon in the surrogacy agreement.
Becoming a surrogate mother can be a rewarding and life-changing experience, but it's not for everyone. It's essential to consider all the responsibilities and commitments before becoming a surrogate.
If you're considering becoming a surrogate mother, you may wonder about the financial compensation involved. The amount a surrogate mother makes can vary significantly, but it's generally in the range of $40,000 to $80,000, including expenses. Here's a closer look at how this compensation is typically structured.
The base pay for surrogates in the United States ranges from $30,000 to $60,000+.
This base pay is intended to cover the surrogate's time and effort throughout the surrogacy process, including fertility treatments, medical appointments, and carrying and delivering the baby. It's important to note that base pay can vary depending on the surrogate's state of residence, the number of babies had, and the agency you work with.
In addition to the base pay, surrogates may receive additional cash payments and reimbursements to cover expenses related to the surrogacy process. These expenses may include lost wages for time off work, transportation costs, and childcare for the surrogate's children. Surrogates may also receive compensation for pregnancy-related costs such as maternity clothes and prenatal vitamins.
Overall, the total compensation package for surrogates can range from $46,750 to $79,900, depending on the specific arrangement and the benefits and payments received throughout the process. It's worth noting that this compensation is typically paid for by the intended parents, the individuals, or couples who will raise the baby once it is born.
It's essential to carefully consider the financial aspects of surrogacy before deciding to become a surrogate. While the compensation can be significant, surrogacy is a major commitment that requires time and energy. Make sure to carefully weigh the pros and cons and consider all the responsibilities and obligations before deciding.